Frisky Friday – Sexy Sits

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Gosh one can go in a lot of different directions when talking about sex and sitting.

For decades, babysitters invited their boyfriends over once the child they were hired to watch was gone to bed. Some didn’t even wait for that. But I’m not in that world, so I don’t know if it still happens. Are teens even capable of looking after kids now? Are they even allowed? I’ve heard of parents getting in trouble for having their twelve year olds look after younger children. It boggles my mind because that was a normal legal babysitting age when I was younger. It seems fourteen may be the age now depending on where you live.

Anyway, I’m not going there.

There are seat-like ledges in showers now that I’m sure aren’t just there to put shampoo on. I’m also sure more than one park bench has been used for more than sitting. Bleachers. I’m sure there were many reasons my high school decided the new bleachers needed doors to access them.

There are a lot of positions in the kama sutra that are rather seated. And there are a number of positions that can be modified for anyone who can’t walk. There are also many assistive devices beyond swings that can help you have great sex despite your challenges. I found this post that can help you find what you need if any of this applies to you whether due to an injury or something long-term.

R~

Frisky Friday – A Sexy Election

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Because many need a distraction in the province right now, I thought you could do something fun with your partner.

Each make up some “ballots” with options for “play-time”. Do it separately. You could even rank them.

Wherever you both vote the same or both rank highly, that’s what you do first.

Everything else on the list is a discovery of some things you’re curious about that you can explore together later 😉

Have a good weekend!

R~

Frisky Friday – Tree What?

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So… Um… There’s a subset of pornography featuring trees.

Things you probably never wanted to know. Or maybe you do, but I’m going to leave that search to you.

How do I know about it?

I typed ‘tree sex’ into Google.

I don’t know why I didn’t think about that before I did it.

Of course, I’m not shocked. There seems to be a fetish for everything these days.

Anyway, I thought it would come up with that scene from Evil Dead. Nope.

Or maybe some article talking about how great sex is in a tree house.

Or even how it could be romantic to have sex under a tree.

Apparently, there’s a 5,000 year old Yew tree in Perthshire, Scotland that changed sex in the last 3 years. Or at least part of it did. This is supposedly quite a common thing in trees.

If you feel like a read tonight, this post goes in depth about how trees only have sex through other animals.

R~

Frisky Friday – Delicate Fun

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Often, the most gentle of touches can be the most titillating. Of course, it depends on what one likes.

Sensations can be heightened in a few ways, so delicate touches are more engaging. Ice, hot wax, and spanking are some of the ways people make this happen.

It turns out that pain and pleasure are not completely different in the brain. That’s old news to some and unknown to others. They overlap. For some, that overlap may be greater.

Now some of you might be conflicted about this whole idea. It’s bad to hurt others. Well, this is a grey area.

If they want to be spanked, there’s a big difference between beating them and doing it in an enjoyable way. Some of it is figuring out what they like and where pain stops being fun for them.

As a general guideline, when spanking, smack their bottom until it stings a bit. Then run that feather you might have found in that little sex kit you bought that time or your fingers gently over the area. For many, the butt cheeks are an erogenous zone, so your partner may just find themselves incredibly turned on, even yearning for more. Or they might not enjoy it at all.

Ask them.

Everyone is different and someone might like a little kink like spanking while others are into hardcore stuff and others want no pain at all.

Oh, and if it’s all new to you, don’t be afraid to say so. Maybe you’re just interested in dipping your toe in. Maybe it’s all new to your partner too. Read about it. Check for some videos. You can even go to Sexapalooza when it’s in town. I haven’t made it to one of those yet, but who knows what the future may hold.

Whatever you decide to get into, have fun. That’s what it’s all about. If it’s not fun, you’re doing it wrong.

Well, this isn’t where I thought I’d go with today’s post, but here we are…

Have a terrific weekend 😉

R~

Frisky Friday – Teeth in the Bedroom

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All right readers. I don’t know if you’ve been excitedly anticipating this one, but here goes.

There are a few ways to use teeth in the bedroom.

For some people, a bite in just the right spot can be a mega turn on. Wondering where? Shoulders, bums, and the nape of the neck. Given that nipple clamps are a thing for some, there might be a gentle way to nip, but I’d be careful with that one.

This should go without saying, but just in case, never use teeth during oral sex unless your partner asks for it.

If you’re wondering about braces in the bedroom, check this link out.

There’s also a couple of fetishes involving teeth. Seriously, some people love looking at teeth THAT much. I can’t help but wonder if they’re dentists…

And, um, there’s also toothless oral…

In Canada, we’re heading into a long weekend known as May 2-4.

Lots of play time if you want it 😉

R~

Frisky Friday – 4 Geeky Sexy Things

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Frisky Friday has arrived and today’s number is 4.

In honour of Comiccon arriving in Ottawa, I decided they should have a geeky twist.

  1. Browncoats Burlesque is a burlesque group in Ottawa known for its geek culture. You know those humpback creatures from The Dark Crystal? Yeah, one of the performers makes THAT sexy! Funny story? Had I not stumbled onto Browncoats, I may never have found roller derby. It was after Comiccon in May 2013 that I saw an ad about a Comiccon related show. I didn’t know a thing about burlesque, so I had a rather eye-opening experience. While there, I met my first friend in Ottawa whose sister happened to be a derby girl. I remember myself repeating, “There’s roller derby in Ottawa?” I had seen Whip It and wanted to try it. Bliss was rather tiny like me after all. Anyway, going to that show led me to roller derby. It also made me redefine what sexy could be.
  2. Geeky Sex Toys is a site that sells items like a Dickpool Bondage Kit in case you want to pretend you’re everyone’s favourite pansexual superhero.
  3. Nasty Dress has a bunch of naughty costumes for your sexy cosplay needs. Or you could always get some silly costumes for cheap at Value Village in the fall.
  4. Typing ‘geek sex’ into a search engine brings up a variety of geek-related porn. You’re welcome.

Have a fun weekend whether you’re making it to the con or not 😉

R~

Frisky Friday – Jung on Sex

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It turns out Jung wasn’t a huge fan of Freud’s ideas about sex. Not that he didn’t like them at all, but that they were incomplete being based mainly upon sexuality as repression. He questioned himself about his feelings on Freud’s theories because of his own lack of sexual experience. You can read more about that here.

Lack of experience is a thing we all think about. As a woman, some men are excited by the idea of you having more experience, but some others are upset by it. I’ve come across both.

There’s no way around it though. The probability of all partners being completely on the same page in experience, drive, and adventurousness is extremely low.

I’ve come across some who didn’t care either way, but we weren’t long-term compatible.

I think people can get too worked up about this.

Sex is supposed to be fun and what’s more fun then exploring things together?

Some still have this idea that losing their virginity is going to change everything for them. Suddenly, they’ll be respected and make more money and yeah, nope. You’ll still be pretty inexperienced.

So what’s the answer on experience?

I don’t think there is one. Some people are quicker studies than others. Some don’t improve no matter how many times they’ve done it.

I think the only thing you can do is find a patient partner and work together to learn to please each other. Yes, just like everything else in life, you have to learn how to be a good lover. And being a good lover for one person may not make you a good one for a new person because we’re all different.

But it’s fun figuring it all out.

R~