Frisky Friday – What Goes Around…

*Someone* likes sending naughty messages and making it difficult for me to concentrate on work. Every. Damn. Day.

I suppose I’ve suggested people do this to their significant others on numerous occasions, so I’m simply getting a taste of my own medicine, right?

T.G.I.F.

I’m not sure what’s in store this weekend, but looking forward to it. Maybe a concert or several movies and cuddling. Hopefully some writing 🙂

Have a great weekend!

R~

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Frisky Friday – Summer Heat

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I haven’t dropped off the planet. I’ve been quite busy between a new job and trying to get my place fixed up.

I also have a new man in my life who’s weird in all the right ways. He’s romantic and treats me really well. I’m sure I’ll eventually post about it in more detail, but for right now I’m savouring the time we spend together and wanting to keep him to myself a bit 😉

So as the heat of summer is slowing dying down, a fire is spreading in my life. These flames are far from the destructive forces plaguing Northern Ontario.

What can I say, except that I’ve never been one to follow a trend.

Hope you have a good weekend.

I’m pretty sure I will 😉

R~

Frisky Friday – Dating Challenges

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So I didn’t know what to write about today. I’ve been a little busy to think about sex at all. Then I came across this article about a man who tricked women into having sex with him. The catch? He doesn’t have a penis.

You might be wondering how they didn’t notice. Well, he never let them see him naked. They always did in in the dark and otherwise they could only touch him with his clothes on. And he used objects to penetrate them. The objects weren’t comfortable for the women most times. They said it hurt to have sex with them and just figured he didn’t know what he was doing.

As you might expect, he’s now on the Sex Offender Registry. Why? Because they consented to having sex, not penetration with an object.

Anyway, I’m thinking things could’ve gone so differently. Instead of outright lying like that, he could’ve given them oral. He could’ve done a damn good job of it. Then he could come clean about his issue and see if they were willing to try things out with a strap on.

Sure, some would’ve rejected it, but he wouldn’t likely be on the SOR.

Here’s the article if you want to read about the strange case.

Dating is scary these days.

Bottom line is that we all have emotional baggage and other life challenges. It doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Just communicate and see how that goes? There’s undoubtedly someone out there who wouldn’t care he doesn’t have a penis.

R~

Frisky Friday – The 13th

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It’s Friday the 13th.

I can’t remember if I ever saw the first Friday the 13th movie before or not.

So far it seems more about making out and sex than it does about the slasher.

Bum grabs, moaning…

Older movies are always fun because you get to see how much things have changed and how much they haven’t.

To me, it seems the sex is less graphic, but more passionate. I’ve seen way more funny sex scenes in horror films as of late than I have seen serious ones.

Oh, there’s the killing. It was just a semi-slow build up.

In Friday the 13th (1980), it really pulls you in the different directions. One minute it’s a fairly steamy moment and the next it’s horrifying and bloody.

I’m off to enjoy this classic horror film.

Have a good weekend!

R~

Frisky Friday – Fortitude

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Well, it takes a bit of strength to last through all the B.S. I’ve faced this week, but I’m in much better spirits. Perhaps I’ll elaborate on that next week. Friends who read this, know what has been up. Anyway, suffice it to say I had a lot of things to deal with because the job turned out to be a scam. But there is a silver lining because a real job is happening soon.

Lasting power is something usually men are worried about, at least if movies and TV are to be believed.

This may be a newsflash, but I’ve heard some women say they arrive long before their male partner. This tends to happen more as men age. I even know some men who have difficulty arriving at all as they get older. Not intimately, just at a conversational level.

Why is it a big deal?

Well, many people seem to feel like if they don’t ensure their partner gets there relatively around the same time that there is a problem. Like maybe they’re not attractive enough or they’re unskilled. But there could be tons of reasons that have nothing to do with you. They might be stressed about their bills or they could be having difficulty focusing because they had something bad happen at work. They might be chafing rather than feeling pleasure (lube may or may not help). And sometimes there might be no reason, but it’s just not happening tonight. Tomorrow could be a totally different story.

Why?

Because bodies are weird sometimes.

Enjoy your weird body this weekend in whatever way that feels good to you.

R~

 

Frisky Friday – Sex in a Pan

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For a sweet summertime treat, make Sex in a Pan. It’s no bake.

Here’s a recipe from Chocolate Covered Katie.

I’d probably sub either shredded coconut or quinoa flakes for the oatmeal because oatmeal and me don’t get along well. Daiya cream cheese may be easier to find for the dairy sensitive among you. I really don’t see the need for raisins and I’d rather put some raspberries on top instead. I’d probably use So Delicious Coconut Whipped Cream and Belsoy Dark Chocolate Pudding. I think some people even sub graham crackers for the crust instead of nuts, which come in gluten free, but then it’s practically chocolate cheesecake…

Happy Canada Day weekend!

R~

Frisky Friday – Sexual Freedom

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You don’t have to head off to a hedonist resort to feel sexually free. For some, a resort may be paradise and for others it may be terrifying.

Sexual freedom to me means feeling good in your own skin and being focused on having fun with someone instead of worrying about something like whether or not your legs are perfectly shaved or if your partner will think badly of you if you want them to explore options like fuzzy handcuffs or whipped cream.

It can take time to be comfortable like that and some people never get there.

So many marriages end because one partner felt they couldn’t talk to the other about trying new things. And I don’t think that is limited to sex. If you’re fighting over which garbage can to purchase, can you feel comfortable discussing heavier topics like depression? Like sexual fantasies?

Let’s face it, there are a lot of things we talk about with our significant others that shouldn’t make us feel vulnerable like what colour to paint the kitchen. But for some even those discussions are painful and can leave one feeling like their very character is being attacked over liking chartreuse.

If talking about the small things sets you on edge, it’s going to take a stupendous amount of courage to open up about your wants and needs in the bedroom.

One of the things I strongly dislike is this idea some suggest that sex isn’t that important. It’s fundamentally wrong. One of the top 10 reasons marriages fail is sexual mismatch leading to infidelity. Healthy romantic relationships include regular sex. How regular depends on what works for you and your partner. One couple’s regular may be multiple times a day. Another couple’s may be weekly. And it’s nuanced. Your partner’s drive is probably not exactly the same as yours. The problems come when they are as wide apart as the two sides of the Grand Canyon.

Sex is supposed to be fun. You should feel good about it. You shouldn’t feel like you need to know if others are having more or less than you. That can only bring anxiety and not freedom.

It’s important to note that living within who you feel you are is key to sexual freedom. Whether that means you have different sexual preferences or fetishes, ensure both you and your partner are both on board with whatever you decide to do during play time.

It’s also crucial that other people mind their own business if it involves two or more consensual adults and they aren’t doing anything illegal. Go work on your own sex life rather than nosing around someone else’s.

For some, things like outdoor romps may be the thing that makes them feel the freest 😉

R~