In the past, I was envious of the things others had. I’m not exactly sure when I grew out of it, only that I know I did. I’ve realized I don’t need things like cottages, boats, horses, gardens, etc. Well, I’d probably like a garden more than any of the others.
Visiting someone’s cottage, for example, is a nice weekend away for me because I don’t have to maintain the thing. Hanging out with friends is fun once in awhile, but my introverted nature loves to get back to my little 500 square foot condo in a low bug zone. Somewhere along the way, I became a city woman who would much rather be playing video games or watching a movie than camp in the country.
So for me happiness is a place with amenities nearby. Pho restaurants, bookstores, dishwashers, concerts, a bustling market, museums, and art galleries. Now I just need the funds to enjoy everything that’s available in Ottawa…
If I did have a garden, it would be full of edible things, but laid out in a pretty way. There might not be any grass, but a durable moss that looks like it and never needs cutting.
I don’t know what the meaning of happiness is, but I think the first step on the path to getting there is knowing who you are. It’s also important to realize that you will grow and change, so what makes you happy today might be different than what works for you tomorrow. This is part of what makes long term relationships so difficult. Many people fall in love with someone expecting them to never change. That’s just not realistic.
Change can be scary, but the short term troubles that happen when you make a change are necessary to help build a foundation for a happy future.
So take a step.
Take another one.
Before you know it, you’ll be on the path to happiness. Enjoy the little bumps along the way because they’re part of the journey. It’s important to enjoy the journey as much as the destination.